I am a regular reader of your column. I have a problem and I need your advice. I am a married woman living in the States but my husband lives in Jamaica. The problem is, I fell ill in 2007 and had to go through treatment. I told him about my illness and he never once visited me. He has a visa, so his ability to travel was not an issue. I filed for him and now it's coming through.

What do you think I should do? I am awaiting your advice.

M.C., New York, United States

Dear M.C.,

Your husband should be ashamed of himself. Even if he had to borrow the money to pay for his fare, he should have visited you. Shame, shame, shame on him. However, you will have to make your own decision as to whether you wish to continue the filing process to have him come to live with you in America.