I am a girl in my early teens and I have a boyfriend who wants to have sex with me. He told me that he has had sex with a lot of the girls who attend his school, but I am the only one who is holding out on him.

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I really love him, but I don't know why. I am a good student who attends a traditional high school in Kingston. Once, we got caught by his cousin almost having sex. His cousin said he would not tell if I had sex with him too. I tried to let them both have sex with me but it was too painful and he did not know how to properly put on the condom.

I know you are going to say I should not be doing this but, at times, I get really aroused and have to finger myself. I know my purpose in life and I am disappointed in myself for what I have done. I need your advice.

S.D., St Andrew, Jamaica

Dear S.D.,

Keep away from this young man and his cousin. They will lead you into trouble. Your boyfriend has bragged that he has had sex with many of the girls in his school and you are the only one holding out. When he said that, you should have told him that you are glad that you are different. But you made yourself look cheap when you tried to have sex with him and his cousin. You made a mistake. And remember that you are not old enough to consent. Make that clear to these young men. If they approach you again for sex, report them to your parents/guardian/ counsellors.

Pastor