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So_InTriCat3 wrote:

I will elaborate on my "depend" assumption lol


If I'm with someone and we have both gotten bored with the relationship or we realize we spend more time arguing than being happy, and we have both come to terms with the decision to end the relationship then I could see us ending things and still being friends. We just lost the whole physical and emotional aspect but that doesn't mean that we won't be able to get along as friends.
However, if you hurt me real bad like cheat on me or beat on me - if you mek it out alive after that beating consider you self lucky lol- then relationship could end without me even wanting to talk to you. So it all depends on how much pain was endured while the break up occurred.


I c what ur saying,but look here once its its over its over..no matter what took place..u must remember ur not dealing wit a ex friend when its over,yr dealing wit a ex lover!And u not going 2 tell me that ur not going 2 remember cetain things u kno wat a mean..Its impossible 2 deal wit a ex lover as a friend,cuz u will always remember d emotional aspects of things and once that started again,feelings start 2 develop and also wen that comes and it wud b foolish 2 go bak 2 something thats already past..

 



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NO for wha theres no point...sri intri but mi nah fren u

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NO for wha theres no point...sri intri but mi nah fren u



 Lol..



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its a wste of time plenty fishes in the sea
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it depends on d relationship u had...me n ma ex never used to see eye to eye after a while even though we had a good relationship so rite now d fren thing cya work caz it always lead into an argument but i ave anoda ex that im still close with caz it was a healthy relationship, never really argue

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KILLAPRO wrote:

So_InTriCat3 wrote:

I will elaborate on my "depend" assumption lol


If I'm with someone and we have both gotten bored with the relationship or we realize we spend more time arguing than being happy, and we have both come to terms with the decision to end the relationship then I could see us ending things and still being friends. We just lost the whole physical and emotional aspect but that doesn't mean that we won't be able to get along as friends.
However, if you hurt me real bad like cheat on me or beat on me - if you mek it out alive after that beating consider you self lucky lol- then relationship could end without me even wanting to talk to you. So it all depends on how much pain was endured while the break up occurred.


I c what ur saying,but look here once its its over its over..no matter what took place..u must remember ur not dealing wit a ex friend when its over,yr dealing wit a ex lover!And u not going 2 tell me that ur not going 2 remember cetain things u kno wat a mean..Its impossible 2 deal wit a ex lover as a friend,cuz u will always remember d emotional aspects of things and once that started again,feelings start 2 develop and also wen that comes and it wud b foolish 2 go bak 2 something thats already past..



i get weh u a seh killa but it also depends on the distance between u n ex caz if you not gonna see ur ex everyday or u only see dem once in a blue moon u can be frens



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calcetaz wrote:

 

KILLAPRO wrote:

So_InTriCat3 wrote:

I will elaborate on my "depend" assumption lol


If I'm with someone and we have both gotten bored with the relationship or we realize we spend more time arguing than being happy, and we have both come to terms with the decision to end the relationship then I could see us ending things and still being friends. We just lost the whole physical and emotional aspect but that doesn't mean that we won't be able to get along as friends.
However, if you hurt me real bad like cheat on me or beat on me - if you mek it out alive after that beating consider you self lucky lol- then relationship could end without me even wanting to talk to you. So it all depends on how much pain was endured while the break up occurred.


I c what ur saying,but look here once its its over its over..no matter what took place..u must remember ur not dealing wit a ex friend when its over,yr dealing wit a ex lover!And u not going 2 tell me that ur not going 2 remember cetain things u kno wat a mean..Its impossible 2 deal wit a ex lover as a friend,cuz u will always remember d emotional aspects of things and once that started again,feelings start 2 develop and also wen that comes and it wud b foolish 2 go bak 2 something thats already past..



i get weh u a seh killa but it also depends on the distance between u n ex caz if you not gonna see ur ex everyday or u only see dem once in a blue moon u can be frens

 



Wonder if u get wat i'm saying..Wen i say dont friend yr ex at all i mean dont get into nothing personal at all..I dont mean u hate them r even malice them and dont say hi 2 them if u c them and even show love,but just dont get into a socially r intimately Frienship...U just showing respect..That doesnt mean that ur there friend,ur just been friendly there is a difference..Frienship mean u start call up,meet talk etc and u develop a friendly relationship wit them,there is a difference..I'm just moving on i dont have any emotional feeling anymore...



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yeh mi understand wat u saying but sometimes u dnt want to lose the friendship

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calcetaz wrote:

yeh mi understand wat u saying but sometimes u dnt want to lose the friendship



 awww...dats so sweet...hmm..taz..hmm



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I agree with intri...and im not FOLLOWING her...its just how it is...i can give you two examples of my previous relationships...

one of my exes (we've known each other for 10 years too)...we ended because it was some cheating ting and its like...everytime we try to talk as friends, it just became an argument so we just stopped trying to be friends, so that ties in with Intri's statement that some things just aren't salvageable...

I had another ex where we hooked up and it jus never work...it ended kinda bad, even though it was a mutual agreement to separate...and we stopped talkin for a few months (wounds need healing)...and then we befriended each other again and now he's like a brother to me...

So it can depend on the situation and the people as well...some people believe in all or nothing...but some people are mature enough to move on with their lives and let bygones be bygones and be friends with their exes...

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nothing nuh wrong

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calcetaz wrote:

yeh mi understand wat u saying but sometimes u dnt want to lose the friendship


Yes and i get wat ur sayin,but y ru bypassing d fact u will still remember that u and that person was emotionally involve?And how would deal wit d fact that dat person might want 2 talk 2 u about their present relationship?

 



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im not bypassing it but the thing is we talk bout everything same way n it nuh come no way to me and because of the distance we nuh get to talk much n i dont see him,,,im not sayin that feelings not still there,,,maybe wen we see each other again they mite return

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calcetaz wrote:

im not bypassing it but the thing is we talk bout everything same way n it nuh come no way to me and because of the distance we nuh get to talk much n i dont see him,,,im not sayin that feelings not still there,,,maybe wen we see each other again they mite return



 Thats d whole point i'm trying 2 put across..No matter what u do d feelings will b there if u develop a frienship between u and him again..It doesnt matter how far ur frm him,its how much u think r dwell on d past between u and him r even think how u and him could b together again..When in reality everything had done wit...



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if you have closure u can be frens after...get time to heal n move on...u speakin from experience?

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calcetaz wrote:

if you have closure u can be frens after...get time to heal n move on...u speakin from experience?



 Lol..ur wrong again..u can only heal on r own and it takes time,but i c wat ur sayin,some ppl use d friendship method as a rebound process, wen in fact it is a process where u just overwhelm about wat u had lost and yr interest level is below 50%(its just a matter of time of time b4 everything fall apart)..wen they try 2 b wit d person and think there is a hope,so they run 2 them 4 comfort..( after all thats wat frens 4)But there wud always b a problem,cuz u'll never trust d person again..U must remember that all relationship is broke off major reasons..It doesnt hav 2 b cheating,it can b some other terible things..So u ask d question if i'm talking frm experience?Yes i amsmile



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ok good and i am speakin from experience also

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nottin no wrong u might can be frenz

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