I am 31 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for three years. We have a 20-month-old son and we have been living together for the past year. I love him with all my heart and I hope to marry him next year, but the problem that I am having is I find myself not sexually attracted to him like I was before.

I think that it has to do with the oral contraceptive that I am currently taking. Before I started taking it, I only needed to see him and I was turned on, but now I try everything not to be with him like that. I know it is frustrating for him as a man and I know that he won't cheat on me, but you never know. I don't want to lose him because of this. He is a very good man and I know that he really loves me.

Please, pastor, give me your advice on what you think about this situation and may God continue to bless you.

K.B., Ontario, Canada

Dear K.B.,

I suggest that you go and see a sex therapist. You both are living together and your child is 20 months old. It is not unusual for a woman who just had a child to lose interest in sex for a few months. But 20 months is a very long time. I wonder if you have your interest elsewhere. Is it that you are not interested in sex at all or not interested in having sex with your man? A sex therapist should be able to help you. Please ask your child's father to accompany you.

Pastor