I've been living in the United States for four years. I have two beautiful kids and a wonderful husband or so I thought. After we got married, everything was ok. He took care of his kids. He worked and was able to take care of the bills. About a month ago, he started to act strange. When I asked him for money, he would tell me to get my own. I started to suspect that he was cheating on me. I decided to follow him one day after he came off from work. I saw him enter a bar. When he entered the bar, he was greeted by a man. At first I thought this might be one of his partners, but when the both of them left together, I thought this was a bit too strange. I confronted him about what I saw, but he denied it.

My best friend told me he saw my husband kissing another guy, but I was still in denial. On my daughter's third birthday we got into an argument. He told me he hated me and that's why he was turned off from women. I started crying as I realised that the man whom I have loved for 10 years is gay. I love him and don't want to lose him, but I grew up in a Christian home and was told not to judge. But how can I love someone who is in love with a man?

Pastor, I need your fatherly advice.

K.W., New York, USA

Dear K. W.,

This man has stopped supporting the family. And you have come to realise that he is having a sexual relationship with a man. He eventually admitted that he is "turned off from women". How can you stay with a man who is your husband and be in competition with his male lover? Madam, it is time to see a lawyer and bring an end to this relationship.

Pastor