I'm a 33-year-old widow and have one child. I'm involved with a 30-year-old man who live in America. He has two beautiful children who I love wholeheartedly. The problem is that his children's two mothers constantly use the children to manipulate his life. He is very close to one in particular and it seems as if he fears her because she isn't aware of him having a relationship. He finds all the excuses in the world to be alone when he claims he wants to talk to his child. He said he doesn't want a confrontation. I love him.

Pastor, what do you suggest that I do? He claims he hasn't had sex with her in two years, yet she doesn't want him to get involved with anyone and she has moved on. I'm not sure what to believe. He should be moving to Jamaica soon.

D.H., St. Andrew, Jamaica