I have been struggling with a serious problem ever since I tried to lose my virginity. I am 20 years old and I have a problem in maintaining an erection. I can't keep a girl because my sex is so horrible and I feel so hopeless. I can't even sleep at nights. Being impotent gives me low self-esteem and no confidence.

I am even scared to get into a relationship because I fear that my partner may tell my friends that I can't get it up and she will eventually leave me. I am depressed and I feel useless. Sometimes I even break down in tears because it is so painful to know that I have been robbed of my manhood. I want to have a happy life and that cannot be achieved if I am not satisfied. I know a lot of young men are afraid to talk about it and a lot can relate to this problem.

Please, pastor, give me some advice so that my life can turn around. I am desperate.

M.B., New Jersey, USA