Dear Pastor,

I'm a young lady who has been involved with a divorcé, engaged and was to get married in a couple months. I recently got baptised. I was reading my Bible and I saw where it says marrying a guilty partner is wrong.

Am I misinterpreting this whole thing? Please tell me, because I really love this man and wouldn't want to lose him unless it's God's will.

L. J., St James, Jamaica

Dear L. J.,

I suggest that you discuss this matter with your minister. Some denominations do not believe in divorce and remarriage and these churches do not interpret the Bible in the same way. Some believe that divorced persons who were guilty of infidelity should never remarry, and whoever marries them is committing sin. Others do not take that position.

I cannot tell you whether this divorced man you are planning to marry was guilty of infidelity. When divorced persons come to see me and ask me to officiate at their weddings, I do not ask them whether or not they had cheated on their spouses. I believe that it is wrong for a marriage officer to ask such a question. If such persons volunteer this information, it would not prevent me from officiating at their weddings because every sin (except the sin of blasphemy) can be forgiven. And everybody deserves a second chance. The Bible says, "Let God be true and every man a liar."