I am 28 years old and married with two children. I have been married for nine years and have been with my husband since I was 13. When we lived in Jamaica and we were dating, he got a girl pregnant. I found out a year later after he moved to the States.

It was very hard for me, but we stayed together. Four years after we got married, he got another girl pregnant. I have stayed with him because I wanted to get my green card. We were still trying to work on our relationship though it was very hard for me.

Messing up financially

Now he is messing up in another way. Financially we are really struggling and he keeps on causing us money, all the time. Every year, at least two times a year, he gets a ticket for some reckless driving or he is crashing into somebody or somebody crashing into him. Last year he started a DJ business (even though I advised him not to do so).

It cost US$10,000, which we are paying back now. In the midst of that he ran up the phone bill to US$1000. After we cleared that bill, he called his baby-mother in Jamaica and run the bill to $600. He got a phone for somebody in his name and they run up the bill to $1500. And with all of this he still has to give those two kids money when we have it, plus we have two together. Sometimes I don't even have money for food or gas. And to him, he is not doing anything wrong.

I do not love him anymore. I stay in the relationship because we have a house together and the market is not good for selling. I am unhappy and miserable. I don't know what do. He is 31 and still not responsible. I just want to be happy. He is a liar. Even if we do counselling he will still lie, cheat and mess up. I need your honest opinion.

C.G., Florida, USA

Dear C.G.,

I am not going to tell you what to do. But when you have had enough you will make the right decision. I can however assure you of my prayers and I wish you God's blessing.

Pastor