He said she was just a friend and he doesn't know why she would have said that because he was never involved with her.

That happened in January and I have come to realise that he still calls and sends her text messages.

When he is at home he turns his phone off all the time. I don't know any of his friends and he encourages me not to keep friends. He never takes me out. The relationship we had was better before we got married. The way he treats me is killing my self-esteem. We even had a few fights. I really want to leave him, but I feel I might be ungrateful for the way he was there for me when I found out I was positive. He put himself at risk by sleeping with me without a condom knowing that I am positive.

Please, tell me, what to do, pastor.

A.S., England

Dear A.S.,

Please tell your husband that when having sex with you, he should use the condom. If he refuses to do so, you should insist. If he doesn't use a condom, it is likely that he will become infected too.

It is evident that your husband is constantly lying to you. You were happy when he marry you, but now you regret doing so. I suggest that both of you go see a counsellor. If after seeing the counsellor nothing has changed, you should seek the advice of a lawyer. I do not want to say why I believe that it may be imperative that you contact a lawyer for advice.

Pastor