Dear Bella:
I have been thinking about writing you for a very long time but I was sceptical. You have this biased thing towards men in my opinion. Anyway I have a very serious concern about my girl and I want a second opinion besides what my friends tell me.

This is the thing. I have a feeling my girlfriends boss is rolling on her quietly. I just have this gut feeling Bella. This man is giving her extra pay, giving her ride home, and inviting her out for business sessions.

She keeps telling it aint anything going on. She said he is the best boss she ever had. I dont believe that crap. A good boss doesnt be giving her ride home, extra money and all that. This man got a wife and kids. He need to stick to them before I do something wrong. He needs to leave ma girl alone.

She aint want to leave the job. I tell her I aint comfortable. She says she loves me and wouldnt hurt me and her boss just being nice. That cools me down for a while until the other day I see him carrying her lunch. Man all this make a dog sick.

My friends say she horning me but I trying my best not to flip. But I think I going to flip soon if she aint leave that job.

Dear sir:

First of all I wont even attempt to answer your views on my column. I think you are a insecure, very insecure. Let me tell you something and take this very serious. If there should be any cheating, do not, and I repeat, do not blame the boss. Take the issue up with your girl. Even if the boss makes a pass she is woman enough to put him in his place or find another job. Thats sexual hara**c*atment and he can be reported. She has the power in her hands to make a difference. He is basically giving her a choice and she has to choose.

I dont see anything wrong with your boss bringing her to lunch. How often does he take her to lunch? Do you ask her what they discuss at lunch? By the way what proof do you have that he gives her extra pay and if so, why? Is it for overtime? I do not understand you guys and this flipping thing. You might flip till you flop.

Bosses do that all the time. I had a boss who did the same thing. I was his favourite employee and he brought me to lunch to discuss ideas about his business. Sometimes he invites me to his family get together. So come on, lighten up; stop listening to your friends. And not all gut feeling is real.

If you continue you might ruin the girls opportunity for a possible promotion. Just watch things for a while. If it gets too frequent or too intense and if there are signs that you are losing her attention and love, then let me know. But whatever happens, leave the man alone. You might dig up an ants nest and you will get bite.


Bella

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