Dear Pastor,

My former girlfriend raped me when I was 19 years old to be exact. Is this wrong? I have bad dreams at nights about being tied up and punished by women. They say men can't be raped but, pastor, I know I was, repeatedly. It happened whenever she was in the mood, whether I was or not.

Please give me your advice.

T., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear T.,

I am tempted to call you a liar. No man is going to allow a woman to have her way with him if he didn't like it. Even if the woman starts to fool around and play with sensitive areas that will turn a man on, he can stop her if he does not want to have sex with her. I don't believe that you were raped.

It is true, however, that a woman can do things to a man that will cause him to have sex with her even if he had not planned to do so. The same is true for a woman. If you were honest, you would say that you like bondage sex so you dream about it all the time, instead of writing the nonsense that you have written.

Sometime ago, a man told me that a woman pulled a gun on him and demanded that he had sex with her and he complied. I wondered how he got 'it' up and was able to perform.