I met a girl on the bus. While we were talking she said that I just wanted to have sex with her once and that's it. The sex was so great at first that I wouldn't leave. As a result, we began having sex like every night.

At times I don't have money because when I get my pay I would give her 3/4 of it and tell my parents lies saying that I took an advance out of my pay so I am paying for it. It was love because at first I wasn't sexually active to that extent, but I figure that I made up for all my lost times of not having sex.

Difficult times

Then the difficult times came when my job contract had expired and I was working with my cousin who is a womaniser. At times he would tell me not to give her any money, but I would still give her until my cousin started teasing her by saying that I have a lot of women.

We were on a text message plan, but when I got broke, I couldn't continue. She started saying that I don't love her anymore. I remember playing a joke by saying that I was going to leave her, but she left me before I could reassure her.

Unsweetened sex

I started another job as an accounting clerk at a top chartered accounting firm. We started talking again, but the love and sex wasn't as sweet as at first because she doesn't trust me.

She has a child and at times we would have sex when the child is sleeping. Since she got pregnant she stayed in a room that her father had built for her due to some family issues. Her father would send $3,000 from England for her and her son and I would leave myself 'bruk' and give her money.

Her friend who is a 'b*t*h' called me a nerd. This friend goes around and has sex with men who can give her money and drive 'criss cars'. I think my girlfriend is like her friend because when I want to have sex she refuses saying that I am not used to woman. I gave her money to buy grocery and go to the doctor for a check up and she spent the money on clothes and parties. I don't even get check ups. Can you imagine that?

She is just 19. She got pregnant and dropped out of school. She complained that she wanted a job. I got two jobs for her and she said that the jobs are too far. She wants a job in downtown or St. Thomas. She lives in St. Thomas. I even arranged classes for her to further her education, but she was pressuring me, so I left. From time to time I reminisce on the sex and I miss it.

I was looking about teachers' college for her and I misplaced her CXC transcript. She started to use expletives saying that I should get her transcript. One of my close friends called me late one night and sent sex jokes to me.

My girlfriend now believes that I am having sex with that girl, but we are just friends. I am now working at an international company (American Company) and I am looking for a girl who can fulfil my desires as I am bored, horny and need love.

What should I do?

S.S., St. Thomas, Jamaica


Dear S.S.,

No wonder a friend of your ex-girlfriend thought that you are not very smart. She was quite correct. Only a fool wastes his money on women and you seem to be famous for doing so.

Someone needs to tell you that you are not very smart. You are always buying sex and until you come to realise that you don't have to prove to a woman that you love her so much that your pay cheque is not important to you, she will always look at you as an idiot.

Sex doesn't keep people together for any long time. I suggest that you talk to your mother and tell her the difficulty you are having with women. She will set you straight. Leave this woman who has eaten you out.

She is not ambitious and she is laughing at you because of the way you have conducted yourself. The money you have wasted you are going to need, so stop fooling around