Those who have found their soul mates will tell you, that marriage and long unions that survive test after test, are based on little known principles that surpass mere love - and includes things like trust, tolerance, the ability to compromise and change with the times; and the ability to be committed to building a future together despite all the odds.
While much emphasis is placed on fixing the various causes of the breakdown of relationships - on healing broken hearts and broken marriages; on moving on after one, two, 10 heartbreaks - not much is said about those who have made their relationships survive, and indeed, those who are best able to tell the keys to making them work.
You don't need a psychologist to tell you what you need to make year one, two or three work, it's common sense. But you do need the advice of the experts to tell you how to get past the tumultuous years and into the happily ever after - and who best to say it than those who've experienced it?
This week, by popular demand, All Woman takes a look at sustainable relationships, with tips on how to keep him/her happy; how to get past the pitfalls; and how to get past the naysayers and have your love last - perhaps into eternity.

1. A kiss after every fight.
This will create a bond between you and your spouse. Even after a fight, a kiss goodnight will ensure that you do not go to bed mad at each other. This might sound simple but as they say, 'it's the small things that count'.

2. Forgiveness.
Do not allow the little things to get in the way. Arguments will occur but forgive your spouse. Then do number one. Note: do not say things you will regret just out of anger. Sticks and stones may break your bones and words do hurt. They hurt more than the sticks and stones.

3. Take a breath.
Try not to take things too seriously. Everyone is different. Do not let the little things that are not offensive get to you. Just live a little. Ignore his annoying habits and kiss her when she is nagging.

4. Give them space.
Encourage their dreams. Do not try to cloud them and cloak them. Give them the space to make their own decisions. No partner likes to feel alone in a relationship and if you do not encourage him or her, then they will feel like they have to pretend to please you and find someone else who appreciates them.

5. Keep your identity.
Do not change who you are. Your spouse loved you for who you are, changing into something else is erasing the person they first fell in love with.

6. Be grateful.
Never take what your spouse does for you for granted. Show them that you are grateful so they feel appreciated.

7. Do not be picky.
Try not to make an argument out of little things. Do not ask too many emotional questions. Give him some breathing space.

8. Show that you care
Even though it might not be you 'style', sometimes you have to do something special to show you care.

9. Listen to each other.
Everyone has something to say, do not push your opinion on another person. Listen and respect your spouse's feelings.

10. Sex.-You cannot have a happy marriage without any sexual encounter. If you wanted to be celibate you should have stayed single. You got married to enjoy life, enjoy it every night if you can