Ever since I was growing up and started dating, I can't see myself with one girlfriend. When I first came to the United States two-and-a-half-years ago, I used to sleep with a lot of different women. But I used protection. Then I finally met a nice girl. She was my manager. I fell in love with her. We were together for six months and we planned on getting married.

Cheating

Shortly after that we started having problems. I found out that she was sleeping with two of her ex-boyfriends, so I decided to leave. She stole all my money from my bank account. When I told her I was leaving and needed my money, she beat herself up and called the police. She told them I did it and I was locked up. I got bail the same day. After that I went back to my lifestyle of having several women.

I am married now and I am still doing the same thing. I even got one of the girls pregnant. Pastor, I need your help badly. I am worried that if I put all my trust in my wife and start being faithful to her, she is going to hurt me like the other one did. I know I can be faithful because I was faithful to my manager.

Help me pastor.

L.D., Maryland, USA

Dear L.D.,

If you were faithful to your manager, why can't you be faithful to your wife? Are you saying that you do not trust your wife?

Is it not true that you prefer to have more than one woman at a time in your life? If a man is determined to have one woman in his life and be faithful to her, he can do so with the help of God.

What do you want? Is it to have many women or one woman? If you want many women, why did you get married? How would your wife hurt you? Do you think she would sleep with other men as your manager?

To be frank, you have issues, but I don't know for sure what they are. Perhaps you need to go see a counsellor.

Pastor