Dear Pastor,

I'm scared of getting married. I have been in love with a really nice man who always pays for my plane tickets to go overseas where he is living. He is decent, kind, warm-hearted and caring. We communicate well, but the thing is I was with a married man for about three years until I ended the relationship. Because of this, I'm scared that if I should marry I'm going to get the same treatment (infidelity). So, I prefer to stay on the outside than to have a man of my own, to protect myself from getting hurt.

But, I really don't like to share my man. Yes, I'm selfish and I know it, but that's just me. I really need your advice because I am getting to love him, but I am scared of getting married to him even though we are engaged and plans are on for the wedding.

Pastor, what should I do?

A.N., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear A.N.,

I suggest that you go for premarital counselling and lay your fears before the counsellor. Don't hide anything from him. Don't say 'I do' until every issue is cleared up.