I am a 25-year-old man and I need your advice. I was with a girl and we have a son together who is six years old. She is 23. We were together for about three years.

Things were good until about two years in the relationship I found out that she was sleeping with another man. We talked about it and because of my son I looked it over. We tried to work it out. The following year she did it again, so I broke up with her.

She has a sister who is so kind and caring to me. After being around her so much, at nights I started to see her in my dreams and whenever I see us in my dream we are so happy making love. I tried so hard to hide it from her because of my son. I tried, but I could not keep it. One day I sat her down and told her about my dreams and the way she makes me feel and she got up and kissed me and told me that she loves me too and she wants us to be together. She said that she doesn't care about what anybody has to say. Pastor, tell me what to do because I really don't want to leave her.

R.M., Florida, USA

Dear R.M.,

I don't care what you say. You knew what you were doing.

You should have stopped seeing her and you should have considered that she is the aunt of your son and the sister of your son's mother. You are not a good man and you have low morals.

You shouldn't have encouraged this woman to love you either.How can this woman look her sister in the eye and tell her that she is going to bed with you or that both of you have decided to become lovers? What are you going to tell your son when he grows up? And what do you expect his mother to tell him? Would she say, "Your daddy and I broke up and your aunt and himself became lovers."

Pastor