The second point I wish to make is that, sex is intended for procreation and pleasure within the marriage bond. And anyone who is not prepared to have sex, should not get married. In his best seller, How to be Happily Married, Dr. E. J. Daniels lays down some rules and one is, "Be willing to make adjustments". "To be happily married", he says "a husband and wife must learn to give and take. Neither one should expect the other to make all of the surrenders. Each should be willing to concede to the other so there is a happy medium in their conduct pattern with each other."

His advice is fitting for you because you have only been married for a few months. He goes on to say "It is because of these necessary adjustments that a married couple usually find that the first year of marriage life is the most difficult one". It is quite clear that your husband and yourself are still trying to make adjustments. You are behaving as if you are still single and if you have sex, you are committing sin. I repeat, that is how you are behaving. Remember your husband will not always be very patient with you.

Daniels in chapter five of his book writes, "It is almost impossible for a couple to be happily married unless their sex life is normal. Many people, especially wives, underestimate the importance of sex. They do not realise the vital part it plays in all phases of their marriage".