I am 23 and my boyfriend is 46. We met through a co-worker of his. We have been together for almost nine months. The problem is that after a month of in our relationship, his co-worker started to tell both of us lies. I did not know what she was saying about me and likewise he did not know what she was saying about him.

During last year's Thanksgiving season, I started to become worried that I was doing something wrong and would end up hurting myself.

So one night I asked him about all the things she told me about him, and to my surprise he told me all the things she said about me, which were all lies. I know he is telling the truth because she even mentioned one day when we went to get the title for my car that we went to meet some man who I was seeing. In fact, she knew we went to a car dealership and the sale representative was waiting on me since we got lost going there.

Afterwards, she started to tell people about our relationship at her workplace and because we work in proximity to each other, people at my work place started to talk about our relationship and adding their two cents in everything, even our age difference.

We got tired of this so we came up with a plan. After I told her to stop telling and spreading our relationship about, I told her we broke up. I told her this like 7 a.m. and by 7:15 a.m. that same morning people started to talk about it at her workplace. She took no part in blaming herself for anything. Shortly after, her husband broke up with her and then she became even more vicious and evil.

I have not confronted her about the lies she told my boyfriend. I am shocked that she is a Jamaican. She was the first person I met when I came to the States about 10 months ago. I have no family in this part of the States and that is why I was so drawn to her. My boyfriend and I are planning to get married and then I want to shock her with the news and let her know we never broke up in the first place, but then thinking about it, I think she will even be worst.

Pastor, please, help me and tell me what to do to get rid of her.

May the Lord keep blessing you.

M.A., USA

Dear M.A.,

Why can't you tell this woman that you are not interested in her friendship and that she should not try to call you.

Excuse me, but this woman seems to be obsessed with you. So, please let her know that you and your boyfriend are not interested in her, so all communication between both of you should cease.