I am a female, 20, living in the States. I am bisexual. The thing is that I like one of my friends and I would like to make out with her, but she doesn't like gay people and I really want to be intimate with her.
Since lately, she has been staying at my house and we share a room because she said the guest room is at the back of the house and for some reason she is scared to look in the pool at nights, so she sleeps with me.
I get so horny
Pastor, I am telling you that at times I get so horny. I just want to open her legs and start eating her out, but I don't know how she would react or if she would enjoy it. And I am most scared that she will tell my other friends and then our friendship will be over.
The other thing is that I am being intimate with another friend and she doesn't want me to be intimate with anybody else, even though she is sleeping around with other people. I really want to stop sleeping with her, but I just can't stop. I don't know if it's what she is doing to me, but I guess she has me hooked to her.
I really don't know what to do right now, so, pastor, I am asking you for your advice.
A.W., Connecticut, USA
Dear A.W.,
You like being gay and I wonder what you are asking me to say. Are you asking me to tell you how to approach your friend who stays at your house sometimes? If that is what you are trying to ask me, I would like to tell you straight up that I cannot sanction your lifestyle at all. I believe that contrary to what lots of people say, that homosexuality in any form, whether man to man or woman to woman, is abominable behaviour. It is against nature. The Bible condemns it and, therefore, I cannot sanction it.
Some folks may say that I am condemning individuals who are gay. I am doing no such thing. What I would like to do is to try to encourage those who engage in such behaviour to desist and to seek professional help. I have had the privilege of counselling many gay people (male and female) and the majority are very unhappy and want to change. Some gays have said that their lives have been transformed after they have had a spiritual experience with their Saviour and have ceased to associate themselves with other gays.
Curse and abuse
On the other hand, there are other gays who curse and abuse counsellors. They say that we are naive and they do not wish to change. However, in the USA there are organisations started by former gays and their main purpose is to help gays who wish to begin a new life and to abandon the gay lifestyle.
Please, dear lady, do not try to introduce your type of sexual behaviour to your friend. I would encourage you to make an appointment with a Christian family counsellor or a psychologist and ask him/her to help you overcome the desire you have to have sex with other women.