Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column. I hope you will continue helping people and hope that you can help me. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 36 years of age. We've been together since I was 16 years old. We are about to get married, but there is a problem. I think he is sick or maybe I am thinking wrong.

Whenever we are about to make love it takes him awhile to get an erection and as soon as he gets an erection, he looses it. I am worried about him.

When I ask him if he doesn't have feelings for me, or if he is just having other problems, he would say it's because he is tired. But it is something that happens all the time, and it is getting worse. He keeps talking about kids, and sometimes for two nights he doesn't even get the erection he normally gets even if it is for a few minutes or seconds, so I don't know how is that possible.

I love him with all my heart. I have never cheated on him and I don't want to. I have even let him use his fingers and that is hurting me.

Please help me; I need your fatherly advice. I need it now more than ever. Please, Please, Please, Please, Please tell me what to do.

Concerned, Westmoreland, Jamaica

Dear Concerned,

I think you should accompany this man to see a doctor. There are many reasons why guys suffer from impotence; I have mentioned many cases in previous columns.

This guy might be suffering from stress, I really don't know. I believe that after the doctor has seen him both of you will be in a better position to understand why he is not able to function. I am glad that both of you are planning to get married so encourage him to see a doctor immediately.

Pastor