have been having a four-year affair with my godson's mother. The thing is we both have our partners that we live with. The problem is I have slept with two of her sisters and when the three sisters are together with me, I get very nervous and uncomfortable. What really causes the crunch is that one of the daughters told her mom and her eldest sister that we had an affair. Her mom treats me like royalty, in fact much better than my in-laws, despite knowing I had an affair with one of her daughters. What I'm afraid of is that if the truth comes out it will create pure "bangarang" between us and I'm not prepared to deal with the consequences.

Pastor, do you think I should tell them the truth and take this weight off my shoulders and deal with what comes after, or should I risk them finding out on their own and having an entire family hate me?

R.J., Castries, St. Lucia

Dear R. J.,

Why don't you just stop the foolishness? Your 'doggish' behaviour stinks. You have no shame. These sisters might not have known that you have been going to bed with all of them, but you know. And I believe that the reason why you have written me is to boast that you are the world's greatest "cock" man. And it is because you are so good why you have been able to have sex with these sisters. Man, just stop your foolishness. You shouldn't be proud of yourself.

I can't encourage you to tell any of these sisters what you have done because it would do no good to the family. What you need to do is take yourself out of that circle.

Pastor