Dear Pastor,

I am a 16-year-old girl who really needs your fatherly advice. I know this may not be the time for me to be talking about boyfriend at my tender age. But I met this guy two months ago and I fell in love with him. We started talking from we met, up to this day. But the thing is I love this man so much that if I don't hear his voice for one day I feel like I am going crazy. I have done things that I never did in my life before just because he asks me to do them.

He is 27 years old and has five kids. He is really nice but the only thing is that I am not sure if this man feels the same way for me as I feel for him. I have been in three relationships before and all I have got was hurt, pain and a broken heart. Up to this day my heart has not been mended. I don't want this guy to do the same to me because I am looking for someone to love me to the end of time. I hope that this man can do that for me.

I get straight A's on my reports and I am not a bad girl. I am not a girl that gets into contention with others. Instead, I stay inside my house. I know how to wash, cook and clean. I am praying to God to let this guy be my perfect husband because I don't want to be wild, I just want to stay with this guy.

I am not a professional when it comes on to sex, or what people would say I am boring in bed but this guy really knows how to perform. I need your fatherly advice. Do not look at my age, just give me the advice you would give to a 20 or 30-year-old woman, please, please, please.

K .B, St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear K. B,

You are not easy. Believe me you are not easy, young girl. I don't know your background but I know for sure that you are searching for love and to be loved. You are searching for something that you have not received at home. You wish to be accepted and to be cherished, and perhaps you did not grow up with a father-figure at home. Therefore, you look at this 27-year-old man as someone who is responsible, loving and caring.

I can't answer you as if you were 20 or older because you are not. And although you are only 16 you have had three intimate relation-ships so you might have become sexually active at a tender age. This man has five children and he is only 27 year old. He is playing around. If indeed he had left the other girls, he will use you and leave you, just as he did the other girls. You have nothing special that he isn't used to. He is teaching you new things in bed but a man who has five children cannot support a wife very well unless he is earning lots of money. It is the bed business you like. He'll give you anything you want only if you make yourself available. A sixteen year old girl who is living at home doesn't need much, so he knows that giving you a little money now and then will make you happy. And he will have sex with you as often as possible and one of these days you will hear that he has another girlfriend.

It is not good for a girl to allow men to toy with her body. Right now it's the fourth man you are going with. A girl must not have a reputation as someone who is easy to get. Right now you cannot handle this sex thing, although you think that you can. Learn to behave yourself and work on your lessons. If you are not careful one of these days that guy will get you pregnant and tell you the condom broke. Take time and grow up. Go to Church and serve your God.

End the relationship with this man.