I am an 18-year-old girl who needs your help. I am currently in a relationship with a 25-year-old man. He treats me well. I love him so much. He takes good care of me. My parents won't allow me to see him. They think he's too old and not right for me. We have to be secretive of our relationship. The problem is he's too jealous and abusive to me. I mean he's nice, but he doesn't want me out of his sight. And if I go somewhere and go home late, he curses and accuses me of cheating. He also has his friends watching me. If I go out and they see me talking to a guy they tell him and he beats me. Everytime I make up my mind to leave, I change my mind because the sex is sooooo great between us. I can't leave. As soon as we argue we have sex and then I just forget all about it.

I recently found out he has a baby mother. She constantly calls and when I tell him I don't like the fact that she's always calling, he gets upset. He doesn't like people telling him what to do. I left him recently, but he kept constantly following me and threatening me. I went back and we made out and here I am again.

Pastor, I don't know what to do. Please, help me.

Confused Teen, St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear Confused Teen,

No woman should stay with an abusive man. This man doesn't only curse you, but he beats you and you keep going back to him. Your parents are quite correct about this man. They know that he is not a good man. But you continue to allow him to have his way because you enjoy having sex with him. I am really sorry for you because as the old saying goes 'if you can't hear, you will feel'.

I am asking you to have some pride in yourself and stop seeing this guy. You are going to get hurt if you continue with him. He is a wicked fellow. He is taking advantage of you. If he hits you again, report him to the police. Unless you do something, this guy is going to continue to abuse you.