IN 2000, Shaggy released the hit song It Wasn't Me, which featured a man who denied his guilt even after being caught by his girlfriend in a sexual act with another woman. This resulted in many persons using the line and other ingenious ones when caught in similar situations.

Like what happened with Ian S, a Kingston cable technician.

Caught locked up with another woman in his house one day by his girlfriend who was supposed to be in the country, Ian said he stayed inside with the other woman for hours and concocted a story, while his girlfriend banged on the louvres, waking all the neighbours.

"It's a studio, so there is only one entrance and exit," Ian said. "The windows are metal louvres so there was no space for the other woman to sneak out, so I waited and sweated and thought, while my woman banged on the windows and shouted my name, telling me what she would do to us once I opened the door."

He said eventually he emerged with a story that was bought by everyone who had gathered at his door.

"I told them that she was a nurse and thankfully she was really a practical nurse and that I had stomach cramps all night and couldn't move. When my girl asked why I couldn't open the door, I said I was just too sick, and was bent over the sink throwing up all morning. She was so sorry for me, that she believed and the nurse was allowed to leave."

It's successes like Ian's that cause many men to continue to try to worm their way out of similar situations after being caught in the act.

These are some excuses several men we interviewed said they would use, if caught.

* "I was going to have a shower and she was going to do the same in the other bathroom," Mark said as he burst out laughing

* "It's not what you think, she is just a friend," Paul said.

* "She means nothing to me. You are the one I love," Bobby added.

* "She means nothing to me, I was thinking about you all the time," Dwayne laughed.

* "I was drunk and she forced me," Gregory stated after carefully pondering the question.

* "This is the first time, I don't know what got over me," Floyd said. "This actually happened to me once and that was my excuse. It worked. You just have to convince your woman that the other woman means nothing to you and she will forgive you and move on."

* "I wanted you so badly and you weren't there so I just settled for her. You are the one I really want." This is another excuse Floyd said would do the trick.

* "She is a coach, I was just practising some new moves to try out with you on your birthday!" Damian laughed.

* "There is nothing I could say," Collin admitted. "I would just have to listen to her, apologise and work with anything she says. But I would try to convince her to stay if she decides to leave me," he added.

* "If you were giving it to me when I want it, I wouldn't have to cheat!" Anthony said. "The best tactic is defence."

After catching their men in the act and hearing all sorts of excuses, some women opt not to take a chance and physically attack the man, but for the other woman, often there is just no mercy.

Why do women seek to attack the other woman caught in the act instead of the man to whom they have made a commitment? The reasons range from trying to show the woman that she is still in charge and has the upper hand; to venting her anger as she may not be able to physically challenge the man; to making the other woman see she is not willing to let the man go without a fight.

But while catching your man cheating may drive you to violence towards other woman, Dr Rose Johnson, clinical psychologist, said this is not the best route to take.

"You have to remember that your behaviour has consequences even if you feel like hurting someone," she warned.

Instead, she advises that women who find themselves in this position:

1. Give themselves space: "Do whatever you need to do to get away from the situation (run, walk, drive!) You need space to contain and collect yourself. Give yourself the space to deal with the different emotions that you will go through anger, hurt, disappointment, etc."

2. Decide what you want after the discovery: "What you do after can get very complicated based on the individual."

3. Choose your next step: "Catching someone in the act doesn't mean the end of the relationship. I have known persons who have gone on to have good relationships," she said.

source:JamaicaObserver.com

 

WHO WOULD U CHOOSE AND WHAT WOULD U WANT FROM DEM..NOW WHO EVER U CHOOSE ......IF SMADDY FEEEL OFFENDED ..WHE DONT CARE ...TEK DEM ALL AND DONE HAHAHAHAHHA---joke

MONTREAL, Canada (AFP) Chronic vulvovaginal pain affecting millions of women can be mitigated by her partner's response, but can also exacerbate the condition particularly if they avoid sexual activity, a Canadian study showed.

Provoked vestibulodynia (PVD), triggered mainly by sexual contact, is suffered by 12 per cent of women between puberty and menopause, and the chronic pain can result in significant sexual dysfunction, psychological distress, and a reduced quality of life.

But a woman's partner who is sensitive to the condition and is "overprotective" to the point of avoiding sexual contact can "exacerbate the problem," University of Montreal psychologist Sophie Bergeron said.

To avoid penetration but focus on other forms of sexual fulfilment would better aid the situation, said Bergeron, a lead author in the study published in September issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

"An overly concerned partner may lead a woman to avoid sexual intercourse or exacerbate her pain by increasing her anxiety, hyper-vigilance and negative thoughts about the pain, which can in turn increase her pain during intercourse," said another lead author, Natalie Rosen, also at the University of Montreal.

"If a man avoids sexual intercourse with a partner with PVD, then he may also reinforce her negative pain appraisals and that can lead to increased pain during intercourse."

Most of all, compassion for the condition, said the study, can lead to greater sexual satisfaction for affected women.

Causes for the condition are still not precisely understood, and surgery for the condition has a 70 per cent chance of success. Even then, nine per cent of women may suffer more pain from the condition after invasive treatment so most treatments used are antidepressant drugs and anaesthetic creams or gels.

Psychotherapy is also helpful, noted the study, for groups of women or with their partners to combat a complete loss of sexual desire and avoidance of sexual intercourse.

WOMEN seeking a long-term contraceptive method will now be able to stave off pregnancy for up to five years with the use of the Jadelle implant.

The Jadelle implant replaces the Norplant, which is currently being phased out, and is one of the most recent contraceptive methods introduced on the local market. The contraceptive is being made available to women at those clinics operated by the Jamaica Family Planning Association (FAMPLAN Jamaica), as well as some Government clinics across the island.

The contraceptive comprises two rods, which release hormones to prevent pregnancy, once inserted into the upper arm of a woman. It can do so from within the first 24 hours of being injected, and lasts up to five years.

Marva Garrick, a nurse who works with FAMPLAN Jamaica, said the implants should only be inserted by a doctor, preferably a gynaecologist who is trained in carrying out such procedures. They should also be removed by a medical practitioner. She said that the doctor will use a local anaesthesia to deaden the area, so that the woman doesn't feel them when they are going in.

"The doctor will use an instrument just to make a small puncture wound for the implants to be inserted," she said, adding that the rods are the size of match sticks, and about one inch long.

Garrick said that since the advertising of Jadelle in about May of this year, at least 20 women have visited the FAMPLAN Jamaica clinic in St Ann's Bay where she works, to get the contraceptive inserted.

Kristina Morgan of FAMPLAN Jamaica, said that the Jadelle implants are very effective and efficient.

"This method is for persons who are looking for a long-term contraceptive as opposed to the pill where you have to remember all the time and once it is placed in by the doctor, you don't really have to think about your contraceptive again," she said, adding that women are encouraged to use other contraceptive methods like the condom to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and infections.

Both women assured that once removed, the contraceptive is no longer effective and so a woman can become pregnant immediately after.

"It is not like the monthly injection where for some people after they have finished using, it might take up to nine months for them to get pregnant again. For this one, there is no delay in fertility," said Garrick.

Like many contraceptive methods, the Jadelle implant has a number of side effects, which vary according to individuals. These include menstrual irregularities, headaches, breast tenderness and nausea.

The contraceptive is not recommended for women who have had breast cancer within five years, pregnant women, smokers and women over 176 pounds.

SHE is beautiful and affable and all your friends keep saying she is the one. She has certainly lasted much longer than your other girlfriends and she ensures that all your needs are met. But could she be the Mrs? Here are some surefire ways to tell that she will make you a good wife.

1. She makes you want to be a better man: Of all the girls you have dated, she is the one who has inspired you to change your negative habits like partying every night, and focus on the future instead. She inspires you to be your best and makes you feel on top of the world just by the way she treats you.

2. She is good with money: Arguments over finances are some of the biggest reasons for divorces among married couples. So if she can live without her weekly visits to the spa and her shopping sprees when times get tough for you financially, then it means that she is capable of making sacrifices when the time comes to purchase your home together or for a family car.

3. She gives as much as she gets: She believes in compromise, which is what marriages are built on. She doesn't have a problem treating you to a gift when you've done something outstanding in the same way she expects to receive from you. She is willing to compromise her comfortable lifestyle in the rough times and is willing to give up a few worldly pleasures to be with you.

4. She has dreams that she is working towards: A woman without ambition can quickly drag you down emotionally and financially. Your marriage will be a case of you building and she pulling back down. The two of you need to build if you are to achieve all your dreams as a couple.

5. You connect intimately: If you are going to be living with someone for the rest of your life, then you ought to be able to connect on an intimate level. You should also be able to stand being around her outside of the bedroom and she should be so in tuned with you that she knows what you are feeling, and what to do to make you feel better.

6. She is independent: She is able to do things without having to call for your help. She is even able to tackle the typical manly duties like setting up a rat trap and changing the plugs in her car, instead of calling you from work to do them for her.

7. She respects you: This is key in any relationship. She respects you enough to listen to you when you speak, even if she doesn't agree with what you are saying, and she never tries to belittle you in any form. She respects you enough to tell you when you have done wrong instead of telling your friends and family.

8. She is nagless: She chooses her battles wisely. While she will not put up with foolishness, she understands that sometimes it is okay to let things slide. She doesn't call to check up on you every minute of the day and gives you some space to hang out with the boys.

"I'm attracted to your provocative chest Hair..."

HIS aim is to win you over; oftentimes he succeeds in pushing you away with the absurdity of his pick-up lines, many times fed to him by clueless friends. With the changing times, red roses and blue violets have given way to c**** and often slimy pick-up lines, some of which -- actual lines, believe us we share below.

My girl, I would climb a macka (thorn) tree naked to get you! Apparently this man was eager to make just about any sacrifice for Ann, who was in stitches when she related the story of the man, nearly three times her junior, approaching her eagerly.

My girl, beg you your digits (phone number) nuh? You dont have to give me all seven. Give me bout five or six, I will make up the rest!

I am attracted to your provocative chest hair and strong legs. OK, so this one is a classic! And obviously can only be used on some women you know, those with chest hair and visibly strong legs! If I told you that you had a nice body, would you come home with me?

Mi can come home with yuh tonight? You want to adopt this little lost boy. Street seller, Three Miles, rush hour.

I would love to suck on those lips of yours. No? My girl, how you fi treat me so?

My girl, whats you name again, Oh Bev? A me man! You dont remember me? Yes man, a me same one from Mandeville. Nuh you name Bev? Mi know you man! A weh you name again? He then proceeds to find out if youre related to Bev because the resemblance is so striking.

My girl, you dont tired? Because all night long you were running all over my mind! I have heard this one more than once, but each time I hear it, I have the same reaction, Michelle says. It cracks me up!

Is mus you name Eve, cause I woulda eat your apple right now.

I wish you were my homework, so I could do you on my desk all night!

When you going back? The way you sweet you must be an angel straight out of Heaven!

(He calls a number ) Hello, who is this? (Calls a name). It look like I have the wrong number, but I just love your voice. This is Popcaan (entertainer). How about if we meet and go someplace nice? You dont believe me? Alright, let me let you talk to my father, Vybz. (Proceeds to shout out loudly Kartel, come talk to this lady here!) This was in the middle of the night and you could even hear a man answering in the background too, Karina told All Woman. I was so upset. And then he had the nerve to ask if he could call me back!

Source:JamaicaObserver.com

As young boys, you were often warned of the mythical dangers of genital exploration. Theres the ever-popular youll go blind scare tactic or the infamous hairy palms defense.

But as you grew older, we began to realize that genital examination is not only natural, but it might even save our lives.

Checking your balls -- or as its medically known, testicular self-examination -- is a useful technique for catching testicular cancer. If detected early, testicular cancer is almost 100% curable. In fact, very few cancers can be so successfully treated, which is why AM has decided to give you a step-by-step guide on how to inspect your little guys for lumps.

Without further ado, here's what you need to do to check your balls.

Start checking early

This may come as somewhat of a surprise, but testicular cancer is the most common cancer in men between the ages of 15 and 34 (other age groups are still susceptible).

While testicular cancer is rare and only accounts for about 1% of all male cancers, its still important to understand that this really isnt your grandfathers disease were talking about. Generally speaking, this is a young mans disease.

With that said, if youre 15 years or older, its time you start checking your balls.

Check frequently

There really is no golden rule as to how often you should check your balls for testicular lumps. But realistically, once a month should do. Doing so will make you familiar with the shape, size and feel of your testicles so that you can more easily detect any changes.

Prepare your balls for inspection

The best time to check your balls is during or after a warm shower or bath. The warm water allows the scrotum to relax and the testicles to drop down for easy inspection.

This guy breaks down everything so thoroughly lmaooo It is wrong to encourage y'all to take notes but please do

jaybee cute naah lie......kelia look like the body.......jaybee have the breasts.....kelia have the hips....too close to call

Hormone levels may begin to change in your 30s, as you enter perimenopause -- the interval in which your body begins its transition into menopause.

In the years leading up to menopause, small hormonal imbalances can exist, so by the time menopause begins, you may have already experienced close to 20 years of hormonal imbalance.

 

Perimenopause and menopause hormone imbalance can be marked by a variety of symptoms, notably:

* weight gain and hot flashes;

* night sweats and insomnia;

* mood swings and anxiety;

* depression and foggy thinking;

* memory changes and headaches;

* menstrual irregularities and vaginal dryness;

* decreased libido and dry skin; in addition to

* fatigue.

These symptoms of hormone imbalance are caused primarily by an incorrect relationship between the two main female hormones progesterone and oestrogen in the body. They, along with other hormones DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) and testosterone exist in a delicate balance, each performing a unique biological function. Variations in that balance can have a dramatic effect on your health, resulting in symptoms of hormone imbalance.

The amounts of these hormones produced by your body can vary depending on factors such as stress, nutrition, exercise and ovulation. When the balance between oestrogen and progesterone is thrown off in favour of oestrogen, a woman may become "oestrogen dominant". This condition is associated with a number of conditions, including endometriosis, uterine fibroids, polycystic ovaries, and breast cancer. Oestrogen dominance can occur in any woman, but perimenopausal women, who typically experience a more rapid decline in progesterone than in oestrogen, are especially at risk.

WHILE some women rather unwisely, psychologists say are quick to bash men every chance they get, believing that it is only fair to tell it like it is, the truth is that many men thrive on having their egos stroked. Some experts are even of the view that failing to do this will result in serious trouble for the toohonest woman, as men may seek out ego boosts elsewhere, often in the arms of other women.

The main reason women give for not telling the man the whole truth, is that lies, little white ones like hes the best man shes ever had, or the best provider and lover will give him the confidence to feel like a man, while keeping him faithful and at home.

I dont really enjoy sex with my man much. But at the end of it I tell him how great he was and when hes away I tell him I cant wait to have him home to love me the way only he can, Jackie H said. In fact, I have faked so many orgasms that I dont even know what a real one feels like anymore.

And her reason? Men love when women make them feel good, especially about sex. If you tell a man that he cant perform, the next time around he wont even be able to perform. Next thing you know, him gone road to find someone who is really satisfied with his performance. Certain chances I wont take, because otherwise, he is a really great guy! she added.

When a woman will boost a mans ego:

Lovemaking was poor This is one of the main areas in which women will boost a mans ego. When he rolls over with that satisfied smile on his face after what he considers a heated round of lovemaking, its really hard to crush his ego and so women do the next best thing lie! Some believe that if they dont, he might think his best efforts were wasted and seek to try his expertise on someone else. In fact, Racquel McCarthy, counselling psychologist and sex adviser on Sex Wise, aired on IRIE FM, said while she is not sure of the percentage of women locally who actually fake orgasms and allow their men to think they did a tremendous job, a lot of women do it!

He did you a favour Men love to feel good about themselves and to feel that they make their women happy. Whenever he does something good, let him know, even if all he did was kill a lizard on your wall. This will help him to continue to strive to make things even better.

He takes care of the kids Though he is really supposed to take care of his kids, and many times does a poor job generally, a woman may tell a man hes a great dad, even when all he has done is buy one school uniform for the entire school year, while she has to provide everything else.

When you encourage him he will do better the next time, Claudia S said.

When he fixes something for you Even though you are a Miss fix-it kind of girl, there are some things that you should pretend you cant do and give him the chance to do it. Then praise his efforts and tell him you dont know what you would have done without him.

A word of warning from clinical psychologist Dr Pearnel Bell, though:

Instead of just telling him how great he was (for example in bed), you should try and reason it out, Dr Bell said. Lovemaking should be about the woman teaching the man how to love her, and the man teaching the woman how to love him. It is not a star boy thing going on, and men should humble themselves and learn.

She said if this is not done, then it could lead to eventual frustration for the woman.

If she is going to tell him how great he was in bed knowing she was not satisfied, then it will lead to frustration for her, which will eventually lead to her not wanting to make love to him at all. This would kill his ego even more, the psychologist explained.

No matter how you put it, you cant boost up something that isnt there, Dr Bell said.

She suggests that while women shouldnt build mens egos when it is not deserved, they should also not put them down and belittle them.

SOURCE:JAMAICAOBSERVER.COM

IT  HAS COME TO MY ATTENTION A LOT LATELY THAT A LOT OF OOMAN ON ZONE A GREET EACHOTHER AS I DO TINK IT IS A TING AS IT A KISS ANOTHER OOMAN AN UNU A MALE MEMBERS....

IS IT BECAUSE UNU HAVE DEM KINDA FEELINGS TOWARDS OOMAN?????

this is not a dis.... jus someting i've noticed a lot on zone, so if unu a hail mi PLEASE sen on a NOT A

5. She`s My Friend ...   Lets be serious, female friends are women that your man wants to F*** but they are waiting for the right moment. Your man is waiting for you to be too tired, have a headache, period or jus pissed off at you so he has a good excuse to go running into her bed. If there is no proof of a female being related to your man then she is put on the watch list. Once in a while a guy and girl can just be friends but I rather stay sceptical of every female.

4. I dont give head!!  It`s 2010.... Just about all males are sucking women , but a lot still wont admit to it!! They  dont want to be looked at as a Bowas or have a reputation for  deep sea diving with there tongue .  males  will tell you he dont  get down like that and next time you see him he got a neck brace from all the head movements he has  been doing! So  if he says he never sucks ****y he is a :liar. Some guys might just really not do it and will wait until marriage, but you can tell them they will need practice.

3. 3. Ive got a headache this is because his wifey, matey, baby madda and the gyal from dung di road him fi cheating on them

 2. Im tired : Needs no explanation , YOU NOT GETTING ANY. You can try to get your ****y filled but he gonna detest  caa him just your madda, sister and your best friend Ladies its these times we take out our dildo`s to pleasure ourselves and our mans want to complain still

1. This is your buddy I cant lie I heard this lie before and thought to myself [A WHO HE A TRY FOOL] . Its only yours when he is up inside your pu55y, who knows how many b!$%hes get an easy pass for it. To be honest, males should say this is your Buddy for the next few hours, night, or until a girl with more game and more money comes along. It cant be mine cause my name aint on it and your name aint on mine so   .

 

 

BONUS: (during Phone-Convo) "HOLD ON SOMEONES ON THE OTHER LINE"........(CLICKS OVER).....(CLICKS BACK)............."THATS MY MOM ON THE OTHER LINE....CAN I CALL YOU BACK?" :lie::lie:
**exits**

-- Edited by ssugarlipss (Admin) on Sunday 22nd of August 2010 09:25:48 AM

A dem kind a ting yah keep the relationship strong!!!!!!!!!!

At a local college, there was a dance.

A guy from America asked the girl from Sweden to dance. While they were dancing, he gives her a little squeeze, and says, "In America, we call this a hug". She replies, "Yaah, in Sveden, we call it a hug too."

A little later, he gives her a peck on the cheek, and says, "In America, we call this a kiss". She replies, "Yaah, in Sveden, we call it a kiss too."

Towards the end of the night, and a lot of drinks later, he takes her out on the campus lawn, and proceeds to have sex with her, and says, "In America, we call this a g**** sandwich". She says, "Yaaah in Sveden, we call it a g**** sandwich too, but we usually put more meat in it."

There is a lot more to the rules of attraction and expressing affection than simply making out. Expression is very important in any kind of relationship and it becomes all the more important in case of romantic relationships. Neck kissing is an important precursor while wooing your partner into a memorable session of love.

Its Sensual

Neck is one of the most sensual areas for kissing a girl. It can either be reached on the way down from her lips or vice-versa. If you desire to make your girl feel aroused the right way, the manner of kissing or rather sucking, licking or biting her neck does matter a lot. The results can be totally amazing if she is particularly sensitive towards being touched romantically in the neck region.

Kissing Her Neck

There can be no set rules regarding how to kiss a girls neck. But, dancing floor is definitely an interesting place to begin the activity. Begin with sending out clear signals through clearing up her hair from over her neck, breathing on her neck, drawing her closer and closer, rubbing her back, thighs, ass and other accessible places, and so on. You know it that you are hitting the right chord with her when she starts enjoying your touch by keeping her eyes closed, exposing her neck and tilting towards you. Start by laying down pecks or small kisses on her neck and the area around. With the passage of time, as the passion becomes irresistible, start working your way up to her lips and plant a soft and tender kiss over them.

Neck kissing at first might appear to be just another activity while making out but it serves a great deal when it comes to having a real enjoyable experience. After all, love is an eternal feeling and the expression of it should also convey this emotion in the right spirit.

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EVER wondered why people who say they are in love attach the term crazy to it? Thats probably because people in love usually do crazy things to maintain the emotional ties that exist between themselves and their significant others.

Women are notorious for doing the stupidest things when it comes to securing a love connection and below we highlight some of the craziest things they do for the men in their lives.

1. Empty their bank accounts: From getting him the flashiest car, to buying him the latest designs, some women have been extremely generous when it comes to bearing their men gifts. Some even go further than that and give the men complete access to their bank accounts, without any guarantee that the men will be committed to them for a lifetime.

2. Watch a match without having the slightest interest in the game: While there is nothing wrong in hanging out with your beau, some women will tell you that watching a three-hour Test match for his sake is like torture.

3. Isolate family and friends: Some women not only forget themselves when they hook up with a new guy, but they also forget their friends and families too. When the ultimatum is given to choose between the men and their families, many women choose the men.

4. Get a tattoo of his name: Were sure youve heard that love can be painful, and this has never seemed more true than when we consider a woman who will tattoo her partners name on her body. Sadly, these tattoos often outlast the relationships.

5. Allow themselves to be punching bags: In some circles, a man is still expected to show his love by beating his woman. Unfortunately, some women still hold strong to this view and will give the men the benefit of the doubt when they profess their undying love.

6. Squeeze into a size 0 to hear him whistle: No woman wants to look bad for a special date and so some, in a bid to look sexy, dont have a problem squeezing into dresses two sizes smaller to get the attention of their suitors. Unfortunately, this sometimes works against them.

7. Have a child to keep him: Some women still believe that bearing a child for a man is the best way to keep him faithful or to make him commit. Even while not feeling prepared for a child, some take the plunge into motherhood for the sake of their man.

8. Fight for his love: Its not uncommon to hear of a woman getting a serious whopping from another in a fight for a man. Were still not sure why the woman should be the one wearing the bruises for the mans indiscretion, but they do it anyway!

9. Fake it: Although many men would want to have you believe that they are the real Casanova in the bedroom, many women know that this is far from the truth. But in an effort to not burst their mans bubble, many women have no problem faking orgasms.

10. Share him with other women, and go bareback: Some women go with the general notion that it is better to share him rather than not have him at all. Crazy is what they are! Still others, even while knowing the men are unfaithful, choose to adhere to the mens wishes to have sex without a condom.

Source: Jamaica Observer

 



 

Between 1.5 and two per cent of antenatal clinic attendants are estimated to be HIV-positive, according to statistics from the National HIV/STI Unit of the Ministry of Health.

In Jamaica, mother-to-child transmission occurs in approximately 25 per cent of all cases -- either during the actual pregnancy, through maternal-fetal exchange of *la*hd, during labour and delivery (60 per cent to 70 per cent) or after delivery through breastfeeding (10 per cent to 15 per cent).

However, Dr Kevin Harvey, director of the National HIV/STI programme in the ministry, said with appropriate interventions, mother-to-child transmission can be reduced from 25 per cent to below five per cent.

"An opportunity is missed when a woman of childbearing age is unaware of her HIV status or her risk for HIV," Harvey told AW.

The infected woman is also at risk of passing on the infection to her child if she:

* does not receive prenatal care;

* is not offered HIV testing;

* is unable to obtain HIV testing;

* is not offered treatment to reduce the chance of passing the virus to the child;

* is unable to obtain treatment to reduce the chance of passing the virus to the child; and

* does not complete the treatment regimen.

According to reports from the ministry, the first interventions in mother-to-child transmission are the prevention of new infections in women of childbearing age and the prevention of unintended pregnancies in HIV-infected females.

These methods include:

* empowering women with knowledge and skills to prevent HIV/STI transmission;

* promoting safer sex behaviour (correct and consistent use of condom and reduction of the number of sexual partners);

* promoting the use of an effective family planning method, for example, tubal ligation, Depo Provera oral contraceptives or Norplant; as well as

* early diagnosis and complete treatment of sexually transmitted infections.

Secondary prevention is aimed at preventing transmission of HIV from infected women to their unborn children. This includes ensuring that HIV infected females and their partners make informed reproductive choices, including:

* the use of anti-retroviral (ARV) drugs such as Zidovudine or a short course of Nevirapine (single dose);

* obstetrical interventions such as avoidance of some invasive procedures (for example, episiotomy and artificial rupture of membranes, fetal scalp monitor);

* interventions to prevent prolonged labour; and

* ensuring that all HIV-infected mothers receive counselling about the risks and benefits of various infant feeding options and specific guidance in selecting the option most likely to be suitable for their situation. When replacement feeding is acceptable, feasible, affordable, sustainable and safe, it is recommended that HIV-infected mothers avoid all breastfeeding.

Other preventative methods are therapeutic interventions, which include the use of highly active anti-retroviral therapy (HAART), oral medication given to both mother and newborn, and counselling for mother and partners.

When it comes to safeguarding one's partner against getting the virus, Harvey said the methods of preventing transmission to the partner is essentially the standard methods of preventing transmission -- condom use, abstinence and sticking to one faithful partner who has been tested negative.

For couples to become pregnant, however, it means numerous trips to the doctor who will, under supervision, through discussion and medication, ensure that the viral load goes down to a safe enough level where she can have intercourse with much less chance of passing the virus on to her spouse or unborn child.

We women need to nominate the hottest man on Mzja...so u guys please post pictures...

STAINLESS does not count...lol

The poll cannot be completed until I receive pictures and names...

-- Edited by shottafiyah at 15:51, 2009-02-13

WHAT A WOMAN WANTS IN HER 20S, 30S, 40S...

LIKE fine wine, they say women get better with age. Experts say that as a woman ages shes more in tuned with what she wants, as she brushes off the whims and fantasies of girlhood and becomes more mature. A discerning man will understand that women have certain requirements at specific ages, and he will know how to choose, based on what he wants. Hell know that its rather unwise to try to get her to settle into marriage and motherhood when shes in the flirtatious 20s; and that itd be unwise to test her patience too much when shes in her mature 30s.

An experienced man will know that if he gets involved with a woman at the wrong time in her life, depending on his wants, conflicts could develop.

Knowing the different stages that women go through, therefore, can help every man to pick the right type of woman for himself, based on his intentions.

Clinical psychologist Dr Pearnel Bell advises that men note the information below:

18-24: as Shes fun loving, focused out on of getting as much entertainment out of life as she can. If you want long term, or commitment, or seriousness, its best to look elsewhere. This is where many men get the shock of their lives, and where much cheating happens, self proclaimed relationship guru Anthony Bradley said. Many men who seek to make women in this age group their wives, find themselves experiencing the restless syndrome and find themselves living in hell, as the women at this age want fun, and want to experience life with or without you.

24-28: Shes focused on her career, and if shes serious about it, not much else. The career-oriented woman wont be interested in having a family yet, but may have a serious relationship that she hopes will lead to marriage in the future, pastor Dalton Broomfield said.

28-35:  Her biological more and clock more starts she ticking sees , marriage and children as an ideal. By this age many women are settled; they know what they want and where theyre heading in life, Broomfield said. At this age shes ripe for the picking for a man who wants similar things.

35-40: Shes focused on building her family and making her marriage work. She

becomes super mom, involved in the kids activities and she partners this with being super wife and career woman, thinking that she can achieve anything she wants to. At this age she doesnt want a playboy, Bradley said. If shes married, she will focus on that. If shes not married, shes focusing on getting married ASAP, no short relationship kinda thing.

40s-50s: She her sexual would and already fun-loving best. "She would already be

established career wise, her children would be at the stage where theyre fending for themselves, and shes again, like she was in her 20s, looking for excitement, Broomfield said. This is the stage where many women have affairs, as they seek to relive the excitement of their youth before marriage and before kids.

A woman in her 40s who is married also wants to be fun loving, and wants to be happy and outgoing, Dr Bell said. On the other hand, you find that a lot of the men at this same age consider fun loving to mean having an affair, and so this is when the problem begins. Thus, she explained, between 40 to 50 is when separation and divorce becomes an issue for many women.

And according to 39-year-old Garfield G, who claims to have studied the habits of women over the years, there is a sixth category known as available. He explained that this category is made up of women who may have got married at an early age and have become bored and are now seeking outside enjoyment, or those who are miserable in their marriage for one reason or another.

He advises: never date a 25-year-old expecting that she will readily get married and start a family, or date a 38-year-old when all you want is a roll in the sack.

SOURCE:JAMAICAOBSERVER.COM

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Many women are afraid to have a child through the normal birthing process, fearing their vaginas might not contract to its original size afterwards. And their fears are not unfounded.

"After a while (following childbirth), the vagina will contract significantly, but not necessarily to what it was before," says Professor Horace Fletcher, gynaecologist and obstetrician at the University Hospital of the West Indies. "However, it will go back down so much that the change may not be noticeable."

It is for this reason that several women are choosing to do Caesarian sections. According to Fletcher, in countries like Brazil, the Caesarian rate is very high with some 70 per cent or so of women opting to do the procedure in order to avoid the stretching of their vaginas.

"Other research have found that after vaginal birth, there can be a stretching of the pelvic floor, affecting urination and the passing of stool," notes Fletcher. "However, most people agree that those reasons are not enough to have a Caesarian section and that this should only be done when absolutely necessary."

Dr Charles Rockhead, gynaecologist at the Ripon Surgi-Centre and the Amadeo Medical Group on Young Street in Spanish Town, explains that during a vaginal birth, the cervix opens up and the bony structure (the baby's head) comes down which can cause damage to the pelvic structure or muscles, whether directly or indirectly. This damage can then cause the vagina to lose its elasticity, thus becoming loose.

He was, however, quick to add that damage done is not dependent on the number of children a woman has, but on the type of labour she endures.

"The longer the labour, the more likely it is to cause damage," says Rockhead.

Fletcher agreed, adding that if the woman has a very traumatic delivery, such as a very large baby, or received a number of tears during delivery, then the vagina could remain stretched.

But, he says: "Most women's vaginas will come back to normal."

Four weeks after vaginal birth, the vagina should start moving back into shape, adds Fletcher.

However, in cases where the vagina does not contract significantly, he strongly recommends Kegel exercise, which he says is very effective. This consists of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor in a similar manner to that of holding up the urine. He suggests that women do this as often as they remember, wherever they are.

However, if there is a significant damage or lax, he recommends a surgical procedure to tighten the vagina.

"This is a relatively easy procedure, but it should only be done if there is total lax or if the vagina is widely stretched.

The Man Rules
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down

Finally , the guys' side of the story.
( I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear " the rules"
From the female side....

Now here are the rules from the male side.

These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1 "
ON PURPOSE!

1.   Men are NOT mind readers.
( FIRST & FOREMOST RULE)

1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.

1. Sunday sports, It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.

1.. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the   other one

1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it , just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials..

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will be scratched.
We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle..

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Football or Hockey.

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape.   Round IS a shape!

1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;

But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.

Being bisexual

Being bisexual is not something to be made light of. It can be extremely confusing and heartbreaking, and it might be difficult to deal with emotionally. A bisexual woman is not there for your erotic entertainment, so if you want to spend your time with a bisexual woman, get that out of your head -- this is not what this relationship is about. If your girlfriend comes out of the closet, treat it the same as if she told you shes a lesbian: with kindness and care. If she decides that she would like to experiment with you and others, good for you both. If not, dont push it. 

She openly appreciates women

Women who love other women and can appreciate their finer qualities are gems -- they are generally not threatened by the beauty of another, and can join you in admiring them. Everyone loves pretty things, and women overall tend to be very pretty things. This is certainly not a definitive clue, but if she is able to appreciate the sex appeal of a woman, then it means her mind is open to observing such things and maybe, just maybe, its also open to more.

She refers to past experiences

If she gets with girls -- or has done so in the past -- it is likely enough that it will get bought up at some point. With all the woman-smooching thats been going on in the last 10 or so years (apparently everyone is doing it or has done it), it is highly likely that she has done it at some stage. Whether she liked it or not, and wants to repeat the experience, however, is another story. You will need to probe for more information.  

She's into girl-on-girl porn

Her loving lesbian porn is a dead giveaway. This will tell you a lot more than any other clue. If she can actually watch and enjoy a woman being pleasured by another woman, then it is highly likely that she wouldnt mind a bit of that action herself.  

She's overly affectionate with certain friends

This can be a good clue, but dont let your imagination run too rampant -- it probably isnt the girl you wish it was, and making up huge fantasies about your girl and her friends is likely to land you in trouble. Hinting will probably get you in trouble if youre wrong, so keep it to yourself until you can see what is clearly going on. 

Who is Edward anyway?

In short, Edward is every womans fantasy. He's handsome, he has a rock-hard body, hes wealthy, hes smart, hes articulate, and hes kind. Hes perfect -- except for one teeny problem. Hes a vampire and desperately desires the *lo** of his human girlfriend, Bella.

Edward chooses Bella

In the story, the characters are in high school. Edward could have easily had his choice of any of the girls in school, even the ones deemed absolutely perfect by anyones standards. Bella is a typical girl and only sees her shortcomings (sound familiar?). She doesnt think she is in his league, yet for some reason, one she cant quite figure out, Edward chooses to be with her.

Be even better than Edward: Make sure she knows you chose her. This is not to say you want to flaunt your desirability in her face (chances are she, like Bella, is well aware), but rather ensure she knows you chose her. No girl wants to think you settled with her or that youre only with her because theres no one better right now. She wants to feel special, so let her know that even if you were given any option in the world youd still choose her.

Edward sacrifices his own comfort to be with Bella

Vampires drink human *lo**, Bella is awfully tempting, but he denies his thirst to be with her.

Be even better than Edward: Do a little sacrificing of your own. Women think its romantic when you willingly (key word is "willingly") give up something for her. It can be something as simple as skipping your typical game night ritual with your buddies to run errands with her, or something more significant such as going to visit her family over the holidays.

Edward has impeccable manners

Edward is always polite and shows proper respect to everyone -- his family, his teachers, even his enemies, and especially the important people in Bellas life. 

Be even better than Edward: Be a little old-fashioned yourself. Always do the basic chivalrous things your dad taught you: open her doors, help her with her jacket, pull out her chair, walk closest to the street, etc. And dont do this only for her, but for all women. Show respect not just to your girl, but to the important people in your life and hers.

Edward is a total contradiction

He is a vampire. He should be sadistic and feast on humans. Instead, he is incredibly kind and subsists on the *lo** of animals to remain humane. Bottom line: he just isnt what he appears.

Be even better than Edward: Be unpredictable and surprise her. If youre a manly man who's into the stereotypical guy things, surprise her by developing a domestic hobby such as cooking, or suggesting (and actually enjoying) the occasional chick flick. If youre a really athletic guy, be a contradiction by suggesting the two of you take dance classes. If youre not a man of many words, surprise her by expressing yourself through a heartfelt, handwritten letter. Get it? The point is to illustrate you arent all that you seem either.

Ladies a couple issues with this...

moretimes women wanna cut their hair after going through a bad break-up or a major change in their lives.

Why is it those circumstances where you all wanna cut your hair??

The amount of women i talked out of it...cha

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Honey, I'm home!

Gold diggers aren't the only ones that might reject you, but that has more to do with society. Along with the idea of chivalry comes the assumption that man provides for woman. Fred Flintstone leaves the house in the morning, works for Mr. Slate, and comes home to a dinner that Wilma prepared. This has been passed on throughout the generations, and even though women are independent today, the underlying idea of man taking care of his wife financially still lurks in every corner, from 5th Avenue to Rodeo Drive.

While this old-fashioned way of thinking could still be present in certain nooks and crannies of society's fabric, women are self-sufficient today and are just as much a force to be reckoned with in the workplace, and therefore no longer need to depend on men to bring home the proverbial bacon. So relax.

Women are just as powerful and financially capable as men, but that doesn't mean that they're willing to be their boyfriends' providers while the men stay home collecting unemployment checks and playing Xbox.

Why is he poor?

The truth is, the reason behind the man's lack of funds is crucial and makes the difference between keeping him and discarding him. If he's poor because he's a law student, for example, then his "poordom" is circumstantial and temporary, as it would be with whatever profession he was studying for. If he's poor because he's an entrepreneur and lost all his money in an unsuccessful business venture, or because he's been unlucky in the business world, that's also acceptable, as long as he tries to change his destiny and make something of himself.

As well, if the guy is a struggling musician, or has simply chosen a profession that seeks intrinsic rewards rather than financial freedom, these are also not only acceptable, but commendable.

The ability to shower a woman with gifts is not necessarily what makes a wealthy man attractive, but rather, it's the power that is associated with a man's wealth. But since women and society have moved beyond the point of equating wealth with the qualities of "a good boyfriend," there are other ways to win a woman over and prove your power.

Fill up your account

Hey, some guys get fast cars to compensate for a physical drawback, others need to develop various traits if they're missing out in another department. There are many ways to make a woman fall for you, without having to drop plastic.

Be generous
Showing a woman how caring you are does not have to come in a Tiffany's box. The thrill of lavish gifts wears off at a point -- especially if she feels dissatisfied in other areas of your relationship -- which is why you should give her the gift of time, attention, spontaneity, and caring. After all, the best things in life are free.

You're probably sighing, what a laugh , but if you can show your generosity in other ways, you'll have it made. So be attentive to her needs (if she tells you she's a vegetarian, suggest going to a vegetarian place you know downtown), and be spontaneous by planning a special day together, even if it's just a walk in the park.

As for gifts, show her it's the thought that counts by giving her something inexpensive, without looking cheap. For example, if you know she's a Zen enthusiast, buy her a small bonsai garden, rather than taking her out to the most expensive Asian restaurant you know.

Plan subtly cheap dates
You might want to leave the coupons at home until you're an established couple, but in the meantime, you can show her a good time without breaking the bank. Instead of going to the opera, go to a ceramics-making cafe, or bring the opera to you by listening to classical music while eating a home-cooked dinner together by candlelight.

Romance and spontaneity have more to do with atmosphere and less with the amount of the bill. Perfect date ideas include ice skating, hiking in your local national park, a walk in the forest, a picnic on the beach, rollerblading on the boardwalk, and even going to the repertoire theater to catch an old film classic, rather than a $15 blockbuster.

Work on your appearance
You don't need money to buy class and style, as demonstrated by men that believe that donning designer goods is all it takes to impress. There are many stores and brands out there that offer equally nice threads, without the logos and the hefty price tags.

In addition to looking presentable, make sure that you are always well-groomed. So trim those excess hairs, take care of your hairstyle, and stay in shape. You don't need to purchase expensive products or join a gym if those don't fit into your budget; buy gel from the local pharmacy and take up jogging; the point is that you can look like a million bucks, even if you don't have that kind of money.

Beware of moneygrubbers

If you do meet a woman and manage to charm her with your sense of humor, gentlemanly etiquette and killer physique, you won't want to waste your time or money trying to impress her if you and your slim bank account will have her saying sayonara faster than she can say, "charge it!"

There are, of course, many women that would never date a poor man, and here are some signs to help you decide if she's one of them.

She wouldn't date a poor man if:

• Her watch costs more than your car
• She insists on parking 5 blocks away from the restaurant when you drive or worse, take the bus
• The only restaurants she suggests charge more than your weekly salary
• She never offers to pay
• She's a slave to labels
• She was raised with a silver spoon in her mouth and has never heard the words, "no, dear."
• She always talks about what her ex bought her, or owned
• When she talks about vacations, she only suggests Asian cruises and European holidays
• She always talks about the importance of a "good" job, which means high pay, prestigious title, or both
• She asks why you're not considering another job, although she knows you love it
• She never tells people what you do, where you live, or what you drive
• She would never do volunteer work

When it comes to the size of your pocketbook, you can surely find women that would reject you if you were lacking in the finance department, but there are also those that wouldn't even flinch if you always took home a doggie bag when leaving restaurants.

Show her that you have a lot to offer -- generosity, thoughtfulness, chivalry -- and are outgoing, romantic and fun to be with, and you'll sweep her off her feet without sweeping out the big bucks. As long as you're still ambitious and driven, have confidence in spite of your mis-fortune , and focus on other parts of what you have to offer, she'll see that digging will leave her with more than gold: you.

The Facebook phenomenon has allowed you to reconnect with your best friend from elementary school, keep up with your buddys travels and get out of hours-long phone conversations with your aunt. It truly is a remarkable tool. However, as with most things, there is a dark side to Facebook. While your male brain may not have tapped in to the full manipulation potential of this seemingly innocuous social networking tool, chances are several of the women you know have. Women are trained in the art of creating, maintaining and controlling relationships, and Facebook is just one more resource they can use to keep tabs on and influence people. Here's a list of some crazy things women do on facebook.

Women set up fake profiles to follow exes on Facebook

This one may seem a bit extreme, but it is certainly not unheard-of for a woman to set up a fake Facebook persona in order to creep on her exs profile. At the very least, she might get a mutual friend to allow her a little access to an exs Facebook page. Whether you broke up badly or it was mostly mutual, if you dont keep in touch, she probably wants to know what youre up to. Instead of calling or e-mailing you, its easier and less embar****ing to scope out your profile while you are blissfully unaware that she is checking up on you. If you want to prevent this from happening, dont add any strangers to your friends list. If you have a friend you know is still in touch with her, keep your interactions limited.

Women manipulate through Facebook photos

The photos a woman posts on her profile can be innocent -- or they can be totally manipulative. Another crazy thing women do on Facebook is to put up embar****ing or compromising photos of people that have gotten on her bad side. When a guy breaks up with a girl and the next day photos of him in one of her dresses hit her profile, its not only vindictive, but also pretty immature.

A woman might also use her Facebook photo albums to present an image of herself that doesnt exactly match up to reality. In her photos she might appear more sexy, more adventurous and altogether more exciting than she is in real life.

Women post passive-aggressive Facebook status updates

The Facebook status update can share big news with your friends or the mundane activities of your day, but for some women they can also serve an emotionally manipulative purpose. Whether its because she hates confrontation or she just wants the world to know what a jerk her boyfriend is, some women use their status updates to air complaints about their relationship instead of sitting down and talking it out directly. For example: Valerie visited the jewelery store and is tired of waiting!!!! could be a not-so-subtle clue that she doesnt want to wait for that engagement ring much longer. Post-breakup, a woman might post status updates that hint at a crazy social life: Melanie is exhausted from a crazy night! or Jessica is having a great day, are both the types of messages that say a lot more when they come right after a big breakup.

Women post ambiguous relationship photos

Its not uncommon to see pictures of women with their arms around their friends, kissing them on the cheek, whether their friends are men or women. For some, these may be innocuous expressions of affection for their good friends, but for others they could be an attempt to elicit an envious response from their partners. These ambiguous photos with other guys could also cause other people to question the strength of her relationship with her boyfriend.

If its a single girl posting pics of her getting close to guys without making it clear whether or not they are dating, it can throw people off when they are thinking about making a move, causing them to be unsure of whether or not shes already taken.

Posting a fake relationship status

Some unattached women choose in a relationship for their profile just so people wont start matchmaking or single-girl-pitying. A single woman of a certain age is a prime target for people who think everyone should be paired off in "happily ever after" relationships. Some single women even arrange with one of their close girlfriends to be each others in a relationship with person to avoid this kind of condescending sympathy. Theyd rather raise questions about their sexual orientation than leave the space blank.

EVER wondered about the reason behind your boyfriends sudden change in behaviour, or the cause of why hes acting so much differently from the other men you know? Is your man a prince among men a hand holding, cheek caressing, massage giving wonder? Or has he done a 180, and suddenly started bringing you flowers, or bawling at the drop of a hat? Men are hard to read, usually, but today you just might get to the bottom of why he acts the way he does.

So, what does he mean when he:

 

1. Starts taking home roses and chocolates for no apparent reason: If he suddenly starts to take you gifts outside of special occasions, then it could be that he is finally realising your worth and fears losing you. But then there are some men who also use this strategy to ease their consciences when they have done something wrong. Watch him like a hawk in the days after he does this. If hes guilty of something, hell spill the beans soon enough, and if hes just transforming into a prince, then all the better for you.

2.Suddenly becomes withdrawn: If your guy has transformed from a fun-loving, free-spirited guy, to someone who barely wants to see the sun and who shuns his friends, then he could be going through a crisis that he doesnt wish for you to know about. Let him know that youre there for him, and that youre always available to talk.

3. Takes you home to meet his mom: Taking you to meet his family, especially his mom, could only mean one thing he is really into you. Be warned though, his moms opinion of you will be critical in how he proceeds with the relationship. If she hates you, rest assured that theres an 80 per cent chance that your union is damned, unless you can convince her that youre worthy of her son.

4. Is willing to go out and buy you tampons: If your man doesnt have a problem refilling your stock of feminine products, then youve got yourself a true winner. This will tell you that hell be in with you through thick and thin, and will think of you first always, and not of anyone elses opinion of him.

5. Cries: If he cries over a sappy movie, or when someone dies, or when his first child is born, thats acceptable and normal. But when he bursts out crying for no reason like in the middle of a traffic jam when someone bad drives him; or after sex, something is wrong. It means that hes overly emotional and cant keep himself in check. A man like that can snap. A man who cries on he right occasions and for practical reasons, though, is a true keeper a sensitive soul who will take care of you.

Source:JamaicaObserver.com

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1. Fantasizing About Your Current Partner
As with men, this is the number one sex fantasy for most women: things you've done, or would like to do, to your partner. It seems that the available flesh-and-*lo** is often more of a turn-on than the unattainable.

2. Sex with a Man Other Than Your Partner
For women, this is most often a past lover. Some women feel adulterous or guilty reliving a particularly hot session from the past: don't. It's normal.

If it's someone new you're fantasizing about, it's the old want-what-you-can't-have-syndrome. Being involved with a partner doesn't mean all other desirable men go away. So those adulterous feelings have to be dealt with in one way or another. The safest outlet of all is our imagination--and it's remarkably fertile.

3. Sex with Another Woman
We're more likely to have same-sex fantasies than he is, probably because it's seen as more acceptable. We're also far less likely to get hung up on homophobic fears that we're gay. The woman featured isn't usually someone we know but she always knows exactly what to do to turn us on because she's got what we've got.

1)Wifey is irreplaceable.. but she is the only one that is
irreplaceable.. She is the girl that the guy loves and will always love,
and he never wants to see her with another man.. But.. He will cheat on
her with Boo, b!$%hes, and Ho's until he is mature
enough to realize
that if he loses Wifey he would be screwed, and NEVER be happy again..

THERE are many different factors that can affect a womans natural ability to get and stay lubricated. Under normal circumstances, the vagina naturally produces lubricating fluid that facilitates things like sexual intercourse. Plasma seepage from vaginal walls due to vascular engorgement is considered to be the chief lubrication source, while glands, located slightly below and to the left and right of the opening of the vagina, also secrete mucus to moisten the vagina.

Vaginal dryness occurs when the glands are not producing enough mucus.

It is mostly associated with menopause, but can also be caused from things like stress or the use of birth control pills. It may be a problem during sex only, or it may cause itching or a burning sensation all the time.

Other causes of vaginal dryness are:

Declining oestrogen levels: The most common cause of vaginal dryness is declining oestrogen production especially in older women, which leads to thinning and drying of the vaginal walls. Other factors include reduced muscle tone and the longer time needed for sexual arousal that is common in perimenopause (time leading up to menopause).

Underlying medical conditions: Underlying medical conditions can also lead to a dry vagina. It can be a side effect of medical conditions such as chronic yeast infections, bacterial infections, diabetes, antidepressants or some medications.

Emotional issues: Likewise, if you are depressed or under tremendous stress, this can cause vaginal dryness. Dryness and lack of arousal can also be a signal of unresolved problems in a relationship.

There are a number of ways to tackle this problem.

1. Resolve problems Talk to your partner about any underlying problem that may be causing you stress.

2. Drink more water Having an adequate fluid intake will help in the production of mucus.

3. Clitoral stimulation older women may need a longer time to get stimulated and so men need to spend more time in foreplay.

4. Cunnilingus This form of clitoral stimulation works wonders in stimulation. A woman is likely to have one orgasm during cunnilingus, and another during genital intercourse.

5. Lubricants There are lubrications on the market specifically for this purpose that works wonders in getting rid of the dryness.

 

Disclaimer: Views expressed are that of the author, and do not necessarily reflect my personal opinion!!!

SOURCE:JAMAICAOBSERVER.COM

ITs quite common to hear of a woman taking back her cheating husband after his infidelity, no matter how much she hurts. But for most men the woman will be gone the first time she makes a similar strike.

In fact, some men will tell you that it is best that they never find out, because once they do, feelings of inadequacy start settling in.

 

I guess its more of an ego thing more than anything else for men, explained 45-year-old Carl L. No man wants to hear that his woman or his wife went out and cheated on them. Its just the nature of the man and how he is made up.

He said that while he has no knowledge of ever being cheated on, it could be a possibility.

I wouldnt want to know. What you dont know wont hurt you, he said.

Thirty-seven-year-old accountant Carlos R made no bones about the fact that a cheating girlfriend is something he simply couldnt handle.

I wouldnt be able to understand why she would go out and cheat and I am here and I could give her what she wants, he said.

He said its hard for a man to look at his wife the same after she cheats.

I would start thinking about them having intercourse and him touching her and that alone would get me mad, he admitted, adding that he would end the relationship the first time it happened.

He too agreed that it is an ego thing for men.

The man believes that once he calls you wife, he gives you everything and you are not supposed to be in need of anything, he said.

Clifton Campbell believes that it is not so much the cheating that affects the man, but the inability to deal with the embar****ment that follows when his friends find out his wife has cheated.

He is still smarting from the embar****ment he endured when others found out that his wife of five years was cheating on him.

I felt embar****ed over the whole situation, knowing that people told me and I didnt believe, and people used to laugh after me and scorn me and grin their teeth, he said.

While he refused to go into details about how he finally found out his wife was cheating, the father of two shared one occasion when he walked in and found his wife in the arms of another man.

I saw the man kiss her, but she said is the man hold her and kiss her by force. I didnt prolong the argument because I just couldnt bother.

When his wife became pregnant for another man, he knew it was time to end the relationship.

I love her, and I wont stop loving her, but I wont go back because of what she did, explained Campbell who is now in his sixth year of separation from his wife.

But while Campbell has been very understanding, not all men are willing to forgive their cheating spouse. Counselling psychologist Beneta Morris said that a mans ego is one of the primary reasons for this.

A man wants to know that he is in charge, she said. For him, it is a slap in the face and it creates damage to his ego.

For him, the whole issue of can you imagine what my friends would say, can you imagine that I am going to be the laughing stock of my friends arise, she said.

Morris said that even some women believe that it is okay for a man to cheat while society usually refuses to accept a woman who cheats.

SOURCE:JAMAICAOBSSERVER.COM

-- Edited by jubalson on Tuesday 17th of August 2010 01:31:55 PM